I got into an argument with my best friend last night. He is someone who eats meat. He is also someone who is religious to the point of not wanting to take the Lord's name in vain. He also doesn't want to hear me doing it. I believe it's because he has a young daughter and close family members that are devout Christians. Lately, I'd gotten a little tired of him scolding me for using language he doesn't appreciate hearing. I couldn't help thinking it's hypocritical for him to get all hot and bothered by people saying words. Words don't do physical damage. "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me" does sound childish, but there's a lot of truth to it.
We were in a friend's car, on the way home, when he scolded me for something I said. I became angry. I pointed out to him that words are just sounds that fly harmlessly through the air. However, when he spends money on meat in a store or a restaurant, he is supporting cruelty to animals. I yelled. With the exception of disabled people, those who are afflicted with a serious disease, kids, and elders, people who eat meat are either ignorant or selfish. They're either ignorant of the suffering they're supporting when they buy meat, or, they know about it, and they don't care, which would make them selfish.
He pretty much said he doesn't want to hang out with me anymore, to which I said something like "Fine!" Then there was no more conversation for the duration of the trip. It was quite an uncomfortable silence among 4 people in a car. Then we were dropped off at his house. The initial plan had been for me to sleep over, and he'd drive me home the next day.
But he asked me, "Are you ready?" I knew he meant ready for the trip home.
I responded "sure." So he drove me home in complete silence. It was only broken when we arrived at my apartment complex when I said "thanks" to him before getting out of his car.
I tend to not confront friends and family about eating meat, but this time, I couldn't help myself. I had thought he was being hypocritical by being so focused on words and not actions: like eating meat and supporting murder and suffering in the animal world. It finally came out. Our friendship has survived much. I hope it will survive this.
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